Going the extra mile
If it was the woman and not the man who ejaculated during lovemaking, the problem of premature ejaculation may not exist. They are, after all, experts at keeping men waiting. They would approach ejaculation like shopping, something to be savoured for most of the day, stopping for coffee and a chat and then returning to the task at leisure, being very picky and choosy about how and when they spill the seed.
But since the task of ejaculation falls to men, it bears all the hallmarks of many a man’s nature. A strong desire to get things over and done with, just get the job done quickly with no unnecessary fuss and bother. Foreplay is an unnecessary preliminary confined to getting an erection and getting the woman sufficiently lubricated. Then it’s one quick orgasm, and back to the more important things like jousting, football or X-Box.
How to last longer in sex? Not easy when many men actually admit that sex is boring after five minutes and with or without problems of premature ejaculation, they simply push themselves to finish fast. Once achieved, they’re zipped up and out the door leaving the woman to do the cleaning up and the post-coital contemplation all alone and unloved. Forget kisses and cuddles, there’s a crucial quarter final replay on TV.
The reality is, this is poor quality sex for both partners. Both are being cheated. The man may as well use an old sock, the woman may as well not bother at all.
How to last longer sex involves allowing time to find the mood. Switch off the TV, forget the X-Box. Allow yourself at least half an hour to relax before the act, then actually make love instead of making like you have a train to catch. Give the sex some variety and above all try a little passion. In love, as in life, what is done without effort, is in general, achieved without pleasure.
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